Many moons ago, I watched an episode of reality show "The Bachelor" and dreamed to be one of those guys who are physically attractive who gets to be in an ever-lasting relationship. My perception of reality show romance faded as I watched how many of the "winners" are no longer in relationships. Today, Princess told me that she was watching "The Bachelor," I was curious about the show so I decided to watch a few minutes of the show.
I was disturbed watching how the bachelor kisses many girls on the show. My old-school mentality. What ever happen to being intimate with one person?
This weekend, perseverance was a reminder that I need to have in my life. I may not be the sharpest tool in the shed, one of my better traits is exuding perseverance. Spending eight hours on the shooting range, learning different postures on how to shoot. The staff applaud me for not giving up and sticking with the entire course.
That night, mother got stressed out about Janice and decided to leave the house for the night. Feeling stressed out about this situation, there was only one thing I could do...continue to take care of Janice.
Monday, February 16, 2015
Monday, February 2, 2015
The sick residue lingers in my body. Dry coughs, chills, and congestion. The best medicine one can prescribe is rest and plenty of it. Even been sick, a man has to do take care of the family. It began with Friday after work, I was starting to feel the under the weather bug inhibiting in me. The long commute and the rain were a wonderful delight. Knowing that I was sick, I would imagine my sister would catch the bug as well. So, after my commute, I decided to stop by the grocery store and make chicken soup for us. Today, was just like Friday. Even though I am sick, I still had to care for my mom and sister.
Saturday, January 24, 2015
The universe has provided many opportunities to learn and grow. In most cases, I was not aware of the lessons or was not ready for the lesson to be internalized.
Today, I went to the professional development on Thinking Maps. One thing I took from the workshop was creating five impacts that have shaped who you are.
Today, I am grateful the universe has continued to provide me lessons that the things I say and do has a consequence.
Today, I went to the professional development on Thinking Maps. One thing I took from the workshop was creating five impacts that have shaped who you are.
Today, I am grateful the universe has continued to provide me lessons that the things I say and do has a consequence.
Tuesday, January 6, 2015
No one ever said the journey one has to take to better themselves is easy. During this journey so far, I was not in the right state of mind. Even though there is no possibility of getting together, my mind is playing tricks again. Hungry for love, I reminded my brain that everyday and every way, I love myself. The feeling for J disappears and the feeling of love is within.
Saturday, January 3, 2015
Over the last couple of nights, my mind was playing the same scene over and over again. That scene lingered in my mind, wondering if I said the right thing.
After days of wondering if I said the right thing, I decided to turn to reflect on this blog, hopefully by doing so, I will internalize the life lesson learned.
I had feelings for J for the longest time. She had it all, her physical beauty matching her internal beauty, a pleasant voice (especially when she sings), she is witty, down to earth girl, the type of girl I can see myself being with and above all, the type of girl your family would love.
At the time, J was in a relationship with a guy who took her for granted. He did not spend time with her, he would spend time with his ex, running his business, watching MMA fights, or fixing his car.
Enough was enough, J decided to no longer be in the toxic relationship.
My journey for this lesson begins when I professed my feelings toward J. I should have realized that perhaps that was a hasty move, she was still healing from her recent break-up. As classy as she is, she told me it was a bad timing that she is not ready to go out with a guy.
A month or two down the road, I decided to ask her out again. Again, she said it was bad timing.
Fast forward to another two months, I asked her about whether she sees a future with us and that there is a program to help 40 women bring in their Twin Flames/ Soul Mates/ Life Partners at the end of March. She said she does not see a future with us and wished me the best of luck in my endeavors.
Learning from my past experiences, it appears that I was an overly-eager person much similar to a man serving time and his excitement for women. From this point on, I just need to take one day at a time, without thinking of getting married or any other expectations. Getting married is a life-long commitment, one should not make hasty decisions.
After days of wondering if I said the right thing, I decided to turn to reflect on this blog, hopefully by doing so, I will internalize the life lesson learned.
I had feelings for J for the longest time. She had it all, her physical beauty matching her internal beauty, a pleasant voice (especially when she sings), she is witty, down to earth girl, the type of girl I can see myself being with and above all, the type of girl your family would love.
At the time, J was in a relationship with a guy who took her for granted. He did not spend time with her, he would spend time with his ex, running his business, watching MMA fights, or fixing his car.
Enough was enough, J decided to no longer be in the toxic relationship.
My journey for this lesson begins when I professed my feelings toward J. I should have realized that perhaps that was a hasty move, she was still healing from her recent break-up. As classy as she is, she told me it was a bad timing that she is not ready to go out with a guy.
A month or two down the road, I decided to ask her out again. Again, she said it was bad timing.
Fast forward to another two months, I asked her about whether she sees a future with us and that there is a program to help 40 women bring in their Twin Flames/ Soul Mates/ Life Partners at the end of March. She said she does not see a future with us and wished me the best of luck in my endeavors.
Learning from my past experiences, it appears that I was an overly-eager person much similar to a man serving time and his excitement for women. From this point on, I just need to take one day at a time, without thinking of getting married or any other expectations. Getting married is a life-long commitment, one should not make hasty decisions.
- Continue to be friendly to everyone. Again, don't have expectations. If they want to hang, just be cool about it. If not, don't get hung up on it, I got things that I need to work on (work, working out, getting out of debt, reflecting).
- When talking to people, conversation needs to have a purpose. (Don't say things for the sake of saying things, it needs to either inform, entertain, or persuade. If talking does not serve a purpose, I don't need to disclose. Wanting people to feel good is the key).
- Love comes within, not from external factors.
- Be compassionate toward another person (Refrain from judging, have an open mind and open heart)
- Give space to people (literally and figuratively), if they are attracted to you, they will move in.
- Trust in the universe.
Tuesday, October 28, 2014
Working with kids, being able to go with the flow and adapt to any situation is essential.
One of my greatest teachers is a boy named Joel Henry. Joel is a seven year old boy diagnosed with Autism who enjoys Super Mario Brothers and computer time. During class, my other students were working, Joel has a tendency to refuse to do work. He would walk around and said that he does not want to do any work and would walk around the classroom. With my behavioral therapy experience, I wanted him to comply to me so I offered incentives for doing work. I asked if he wanted to have computer time or color a coloring book with Mario and Luigi. He complied and said he wanted to color, so then I told him that he needs to get some work done. He continued to walk around and refused to do work, so then I asked if he wants to wear the Mario hat that I purchased for him and in return, he jumped up with excitement. I told him, "Let's work for it." He refused so I told him in my harsh voice that he will not get computer time when we go to the computer lab. The bell rang, it was time for computer time, so my kids lined up. To follow through with Joel, I took his work with us. When we were at the computer lab, he decided to go under neath the table so I went under the table sat next to him. I then asked him if he wants to color Mario, he finally complied and did his work.
One of my greatest teachers is a boy named Joel Henry. Joel is a seven year old boy diagnosed with Autism who enjoys Super Mario Brothers and computer time. During class, my other students were working, Joel has a tendency to refuse to do work. He would walk around and said that he does not want to do any work and would walk around the classroom. With my behavioral therapy experience, I wanted him to comply to me so I offered incentives for doing work. I asked if he wanted to have computer time or color a coloring book with Mario and Luigi. He complied and said he wanted to color, so then I told him that he needs to get some work done. He continued to walk around and refused to do work, so then I asked if he wants to wear the Mario hat that I purchased for him and in return, he jumped up with excitement. I told him, "Let's work for it." He refused so I told him in my harsh voice that he will not get computer time when we go to the computer lab. The bell rang, it was time for computer time, so my kids lined up. To follow through with Joel, I took his work with us. When we were at the computer lab, he decided to go under neath the table so I went under the table sat next to him. I then asked him if he wants to color Mario, he finally complied and did his work.
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